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How to Save a Broken Marriage

How to save a broken marriage involves paying close attention to the “5 tips to End the Marital Crisis and Pain Once and Forever.” Learn when you are MOST vulnerable to a broken marriage or marriage crisis. Discover why conventional advice to save a broken marriage doesn’t work or is only a temporary fix for […]

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Powerful Communication in Your Marriage

The act of speaking, your voice is often difficult in the beginning since you probably have little experience or knowledge of how to effectively speak your voice and live your power. Speaking your voice does not mean anger, control, loudness or contorted body language. There are many nuances to speaking your voice, which you can

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The Distance Means Desire for Love

Take a minute. Isn’t this true? Don’t you truly want an intimate relationship in which you can feel appreciated, wanted, acknowledged, affirmed and to touch and be touched? You want to be known and to know in a genuinely heartfelt way. You long for that. Your toughness, your prickles, your withdrawal and your constant frenetic

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The Pulling Away Spouse Accommodates

You are perceived as the recalcitrant spouse, the uncooperative one and the bad person for not getting with the program. You receive this message from others. And, you may believe that of yourself as well, at least to a disturbing degree. You believe it is important therefore to swallow the not so nice words on

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The Intent of the “Cold” Spouse

You are not trying to be bad, stubborn, passive or whatever. You are merely trying to control your feelings and your thoughts. You are doing the best you can considering the coping mechanisms you bring, your situation and a number of other factors. You don’t truly want to feel responsible for hurting someone. You don’t

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Emotional Distance is a Way to Cope

Can you think of someone who copes by being submissive, by accommodating others, sometimes by relishing the victim role? Can you think of someone who waltzes through life being seductive or charming as a way to get what s/he wants? Or some who cope with the inner anxiety and fears by controlling his/her world and

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Romance is a loaded word

As a male you are asked to be more romantic. If you are a typical male, this strikes a scary cord. You think of some stud, with piercing eyes and sly soft smile who knows how to wooooo a woman and “sweep her off her feet.” You are expected to say the right thing at

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8 Underlying Reasons why “Talking” may Kill a Marriage

Communication is king! However, here you are: tongue-tied, reluctant to say what you think or feel, yet feel that seething frustration of not being heard. You don’t know what to do. Others seem to scream at you: say more, get it out, express yourself! And, you, plain and simple, just don’t feel safe. Leave your

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Need Meeting in Marriage is NEVER Enough

And as you scan the media, as you encounter others at work or in other contexts, and if you look a little below the surface, you notice that getting personal needs met is a huge priority in our culture. The need for attention, the need for power, the need for success, the need for recognition,

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