22 Qualities That Create an Emotional Connection
The following is a list of qualities that create an emotional connection in a marriage or partnership: 1. I want to enjoy receiving pleasure from my spouse and easily communicate desires. 2. I want to accept and respect a “no” from my partner. 3. I want to communicate my personal needs around sex and have them understood. 4. I want to have sex be a choice, not a compulsion. 5. I want to feel great after an erotic time together. 6. I want to trust my partner more than anyone else. 7. I want to keep my word to my partner. 8. I want to be careful in what I promise and not set up partner for disappointment. 9. I want to respect my partner’s friendship with attractive people. 10. I want to receive all the affection and touch I want from my partner. 11. I want to experience moments of tenderness, kindness and gentleness in our marriage. 12. I want to laugh at my humanness. 13. I want to lovingly tease my spouse. 14. I want to create time to be with children and close friends. 15. I want to have us surround ourselves with friends and family. 16.
Discover the TRUTH about Your Spouse’s Affair
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How to Create a Loving Mood in Your Marriage
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Stop Trying to Get Something From Her
Webinar with Dr. Bob Huizenga Click Here to Listen and/or Download Audio to Your Device (Right click the button above and select “Save Link As…” to download the audio file) Chat Transcript of the Q & A Glad you are here. Feel free to add your questions or comments. 3:02 PM steve (to All): yes 3:02 PM Patricia (to All): yes 3:02 PM Kathy (to All): yes 3:02 PM Rob (to All): yes 3:02 PM Steve (to All): That I don’t even want her back 3:02 PM Steve (to All): Can’t ever trust her again 3:03 PM Rob (to All): I agree. I ? everything. 3:09 PM Rob (to All): it took my husband over a year to figure out what he wanted after his affair. 3:10 PM Beth (PRIVATE): dday was 5months ago, he says 2 weeks ago he has ended affair, though clearly a process. last week was first time when pressed he admitted that it was physical as late as 1 month ago. this disclosure made him angry and irritable. he did not want to tell me. in my opinion it now makes it very real what he. has done. is the anger r husband discloses? 3:11
The SECRET to Staying Calm (Inside and Out) when your spouse loses it
Webinar with Dr. Bob Huizenga Click Here to Listen and/or Download Audio to Your Device (Right click the button above and select “Save Link As…” to download the audio file) Chat Transcript of the Q & A Glad you are here. Feel free to add your questions or comments. 9:56 PM Mary (to All): Hi, Bob – Mary here 9:56 PM To All: Hi Mary… looks like you go it to work.. 9:57 PM Mary (to All): yes, but I had to hit “everyone” to type this 9:57 PM Mary (to All): and no audio yey 9:58 PM Mary (to All): yet 9:58 PM To All: Ok… not sure what you do for private 9:58 PM To All: audio coming on the hour.. 9:58 PM Mary (to All): ok 9:58 PM Mary (to All): can see you, but hope you cannot see me -in PJ’s? 9:59 PM To All: nope… cant see you 10:00 PM David Sayer (to All): yes 10:01 PM Amanda (to Organizers): yes I can hear you 10:03 PM Mary (to All): My spouse left again, in anger, indicated he wants no contact other than text messages related to house maintenance. He states he wants space, but
The Self Healing Marriage – How to Unleash Hidden Love
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How to Make Your Point without Wigging out or Wimping Out
Webinar with Dr. Bob Huizenga Click Here to Listen and/or Download Audio to Your Device (Right click the button above and select “Save Link As…” to download the audio file) Chat Transcript of the Q & A Glad you are here. Feel free to add your questions or comments. 10:01 PM Maria Cristallo (to All): yes 10:01 PM Sheri (to All): yes 10:01 PM cah1 (to All): yes 10:01 PM Idalia (to All): yes 10:01 PM maryanne Overbaugh (to All): yes 10:02 PM [ Waiting for name ] (to All): yes 10:06 PM Kulin (PRIVATE): why did the affair happen ?? 10:06 PM Kulin (PRIVATE): what was the need ? 10:06 PM Kulin (to Organizers): yes.. 10:06 PM Ann (to All): my partner resenting me and talking in circles 10:06 PM Kulin (to Organizers): yes 10:07 PM Ann (to All): blaming all what went wrong on me 10:07 PM Kulin (to Organizers): she starts crying and almost has nervous breakdown 10:07 PM maryanne Overbaugh (to All): Today, my husband keeps saying he is coming home he is living with his affair partner. He keeps telling me he has a plan but nothing is happeining. he has said this for 2
Q & A with Dr. Huizenga 5-1-17 How to Manage Gut Wrenching Pain
Webinar with Dr. Bob Huizenga Click Here to Listen and/or Download Audio to Your Device (Right click the button above and select “Save Link As…” to download the audio file) Chat Transcript of the Q & A Glad you are here. Feel free to add your questions or comments. 2:44 PM Laura (PRIVATE): How to physically go neutral when experiencing the gut wrenching dibilitating pain. 2:47 PM To All: Good Question Laura. Are you willing to interact with me live regarding this question? 2:47 PM Laura (PRIVATE): sure to above questionHow should I communicate and how often when dealing with spouse who moved away and has little contact with me and when he does seems very detatched or disingaged. Says communicating with me is painful. Has not ended the emotional affair and only reason not physical is she is overseas now. When he was home had very difficult time charging neutral 2:48 PM Laura (PRIVATE): I have mic muted right now and web cam off 2:48 PM To All: Yes, I have everyone muted and you need not use the webcam 2:49 PM Laura (PRIVATE): ok so when you ask you will unmute? 2:49 PM To All: Once I present
Facebook Live Q&A with Dr. Huizenga
I’ve decided to take advantage of Facebook Live and offer an opportunity for people to get their questions answered by me personally. The first Live video was a success! The recording is available below. Here are a few of the questions that were answered during the session: “What can the betrayed wife do about the affair partner that wants the husband after the affair is exposed? The wife wants the husband back and work on the marriage. The husband is very lost.” “What if he has admitted to an affair with his secretary, yet does not get rid of her? As a matter of fact she is his right-hand man (woman) when it comes to running his business. This has been going on for over 4 years.” “Can you show affection and love to your spouse while charging neutral?” “At a point where I am ready to walk. I have not been able to get the support that I need from my wife as she says she is still dealing with her issues from the past. Its been 18 months and my tank is running empty.” “I discovered my wife’s affair two months ago. At this time, she knows what
What it takes to Save Your Marriage
Think Bigger! How do you save your marriage? You will be disappointed as you pursue conventional marital advice. We’ been handing out the same advice for the past 30 years and the divorce rates still hovers at 50%. Look around you. How many authentically happy couples do you see? Here are the 3 overarching suggestions of conventional advice. 1 Focus on your spouse and try to “win them back – to the love you had.” 2 Become a better person, so you are more attractive. 3 Perform better (communicate better, be more sexy, more engaged, etc.) (I provide more detail on these 3 Fear-Based Beliefs in my Intensive Marriage Building Modules.) You may get some positive results, but the results will be temporary. I give thanks for my training and experience in Family Systems Theory which looks at the larger picture with marriages and families. (Conventional training is reductionist, examining the dysfunction of the individual.) Over the past 5 years I’ve developed a Marriage Building Online Course that begins with the larger picture and moves you through a series of steps that alters the nature of your marriage or relationship. First you must RELAX. I offer ways to reduce the