How to Save a Broken Marriage
How to save a broken marriage involves paying close attention to the “5 tips to End the Marital Crisis and Pain Once and Forever.” Learn when you are MOST vulnerable to a broken marriage or marriage crisis. Discover why conventional advice to save a broken marriage doesn’t work or is only a temporary fix for your marital crisis. Click and listen to the video and sign up below to receive your free copy of “5 Tips to End Your Marital Crisis and Pain Once and Forever.” Download the audio for this video now!
Powerful Communication in Your Marriage
The act of speaking, your voice is often difficult in the beginning since you probably have little experience or knowledge of how to effectively speak your voice and live your power. Speaking your voice does not mean anger, control, loudness or contorted body language. There are many nuances to speaking your voice, which you can easily learn and give you the freedom to move ahead with a sense of direction, purpose and hope. Speak your voice, you must, if you want to get yourself and the marriage off its ugly center and moving toward resolution that benefits all. And, you will find a new sense of freedom and loving power that will shake you out of your old coping methods. What sticks in your mind about this video. Please share with us below.
The Distance Means Desire for Love
Take a minute. Isn’t this true? Don’t you truly want an intimate relationship in which you can feel appreciated, wanted, acknowledged, affirmed and to touch and be touched? You want to be known and to know in a genuinely heartfelt way. You long for that. Your toughness, your prickles, your withdrawal and your constant frenetic search is merely your way to cope. That’s all it is! Period. What did you take away from this video? Please let us know below.
The Pulling Away Spouse Accommodates
You are perceived as the recalcitrant spouse, the uncooperative one and the bad person for not getting with the program. You receive this message from others. And, you may believe that of yourself as well, at least to a disturbing degree. You believe it is important therefore to swallow the not so nice words on the tip of your tongue or to capitulate and give in to the needs and requests of your spouse – to move close. What ran through your mind during this video? Leave your thoughts below.
Marriage and Self Worth
I had a rather strange phone conversation with one of my “readers” a couple days ago. If not strange it was at least different; the first of its kind. The woman said she didn’t want my materials because it was more like a workbook and she just wanted to read. I didn’t ask many questions, since she seemed well entrenched in her position. But, it led me to think: What was underneath this comment? And, what can I take away from her comment? My mind began to ferret out her possible undercurrents: I want something that makes me feel good, but I don’t want to think too much. You know, entertaining stories that give me a temporary escape or perhaps bury my pain for a while. Is she saying: I work in my head? I like abstractions? I don’t want to apply those concepts to my feelings, actions or thoughts? Is self reflection something she wants to avoid? Perhaps she does not want to connect the dots of her patterns, her thoughts or her ways of relating? Perhaps she is scared stiff of personal reflection, of what she might uncover about herself (assuming it will be awful?) Perhaps she doesn’t
The Intent of the “Cold” Spouse
You are not trying to be bad, stubborn, passive or whatever. You are merely trying to control your feelings and your thoughts. You are doing the best you can considering the coping mechanisms you bring, your situation and a number of other factors. You don’t truly want to feel responsible for hurting someone. You don’t want pain. You don’t want to fight. You don’t want the distance. Leave your comments below. What did you learn from this video?
Emotional Distance is a Way to Cope
Can you think of someone who copes by being submissive, by accommodating others, sometimes by relishing the victim role? Can you think of someone who waltzes through life being seductive or charming as a way to get what s/he wants? Or some who cope with the inner anxiety and fears by controlling his/her world and others? Or, the typical type A personality who aggressively runs over others, getting in the first punch, so to speak? Or, someone who becomes a bristling porcupine, using criticism, sarcasm and bouts of explosive anger to protect and defend? Or, someone who is always calm, cool and collected and exudes confidence, although seldom has the capacity to be empathetic or enter another’s internal world? Or, someone who is “in his/her own world” and others seldom have an idea of the nature of that world? Please leave your thoughts below. What common ways of coping by distancing do you encounter?
Romance is a loaded word
As a male you are asked to be more romantic. If you are a typical male, this strikes a scary cord. You think of some stud, with piercing eyes and sly soft smile who knows how to wooooo a woman and “sweep her off her feet.” You are expected to say the right thing at the right time with an irresistible tone of voice. Flowers, chocolates, staring into her eyes in the moonlight, love filled text messages, cards which express your undying passionate love and words that frequently express how much you want her to become your model. And, deep within you realize that you feel terribly inadequate being that stud. You cannot measure up. You think of the sexual encounter and again, you may not be the sensitive caring stud you believe she wants. Please leave comments below. How has romance shaped the lack of true intimacy in your marriage or relationship?
8 Underlying Reasons why “Talking” may Kill a Marriage
Communication is king! However, here you are: tongue-tied, reluctant to say what you think or feel, yet feel that seething frustration of not being heard. You don’t know what to do. Others seem to scream at you: say more, get it out, express yourself! And, you, plain and simple, just don’t feel safe. Leave your comments below. Who “majors” in talking in your relationship and what is its impact?
Need Meeting in Marriage is NEVER Enough
And as you scan the media, as you encounter others at work or in other contexts, and if you look a little below the surface, you notice that getting personal needs met is a huge priority in our culture. The need for attention, the need for power, the need for success, the need for recognition, the need for control, the need for belonging, the need for adoration, the need for acknowledgement, and the need for love are just a few that propel night and day. But, here’s one huge problem: need meeting is like trying to drain the ocean. It NEVER ends. There is NEVER ENOUGH! Please leave your opinions or comments below. How powerful are personal needs in your marriage or relationship?