You are perceived as the recalcitrant spouse, the uncooperative one and the bad person for not getting with the program. You receive this message from others. And, you may believe that of yourself as well, at least to a disturbing degree. You believe it is important therefore to swallow the not so nice words on […]
The Pulling Away Spouse Accommodates Read More »
Can you think of someone who copes by being submissive, by accommodating others, sometimes by relishing the victim role? Can you think of someone who waltzes through life being seductive or charming as a way to get what s/he wants? Or some who cope with the inner anxiety and fears by controlling his/her world and
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As a male you are asked to be more romantic. If you are a typical male, this strikes a scary cord. You think of some stud, with piercing eyes and sly soft smile who knows how to wooooo a woman and “sweep her off her feet.” You are expected to say the right thing at
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I’ve observed that we live in an ADD – OCD culture. You may flit from thought to thought, project to project and for the life of you find it difficult to maintain your focus. Our medical community labels this as Attention Deficit Disorder and prescribes medication. Or you may work extremely hard controlling your environment
Marriage in Crisis: 6 Ways to Keep Your Focus Read More »
When confronted with a marital crisis, your knee jerk reaction is to focus “out there” to stop the crisis. An almost obsessive like focus on your spouse or partner during a marital crisis I find extremely common, at least when the crisis first erupts. Your world is thrown into chaos. Your future suddenly is marked
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If you are the reluctant spouse that is pulling away, wants emotional distance, I want you to feel better: no guilt, less paralysis and less frustration. I want you to understand your dilemma so you might move ahead, wherever that takes you, in ways that honor you, your spouse and your family. Play the video
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What difficulties do men have in creating and developing intimacy and closeness in marriage? I’m first going to outline seven reasons for men having difficulty in getting and keeping closeness in marriage. These reasons emerge from the general coping patterns I talked about earlier. 1. A man may proclaim: “It’s not me. It’s your fault.”
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Healing the Marriage: 3 Steps to Closeness What things can you do to help you in healing the marriage? The first step in your journey to closeness is to understand and be aware of your patterns. You have ways of coping with emotional issues and relationships that you took with you from childhood. It was sensible
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Is it really just men who are having trouble with intimacy in marriage? How do women cope with this fear? And how are they different from men? Perhaps you also know this fact: That women have “issues” with closeness and intimacy in marriage just as much as men do. Although women may approach the issue
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What is it that creates men to have difficulty with closeness? And, how does it make you feel? Please understand that this is not about man bashing. I’m a man and I prefer not to be bashed. And women, I assume also don’t like to be bashed. We have enough bashing in our culture. The
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