A huge majority of those I’ve worked with over the years regarding their marriage problems profess first and foremost that they are looking for changes in their spouse. If only s/he would be more communicative, be more emotional, be more caring, listen better, not focus so much on work, not have friends be the center …
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Reminder: If you missed my blog on Magic Moments, go here now to review: https://saveamarriageforever.com/the-reality-of-magic-moments-in-a-marriage/ Warning: Don’t shame on you. I am usually terribly reluctant to share ideals or a vision of what is possible. The reason: many feel guilty, inadequate or discouraged because they are not there. Rather than use the ideals or vision as …
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Part 6 (previous post: Men, Intimacy and Judgment) You want to believe you are “normal.” Often, in the midst of a marital crisis you feel anything but normal. Your world is turned upside down. Your dreams and hopes of a “normal” happy family are dashed. You begin to doubt yourself. Your neediness becomes more desperate. …
Part 4 (Prior post: Men, Intimacy and Isolation) Knowing the coping patterns of your spouse (as outlined in “7 Reasons Men have Difficulty Getting Close and Staying Close”) provides relief. Often you as a spouse are too close to the relationship to see the overarching patterns of coping and behavior. You see the tree staring …
Men and Intimacy – Part 3 (the prior post: Men, Intimacy and Guilt) The spouse who lives and breathes next to an emotionally distant man may experience a strong dose of isolation. If guilt and a sense of undue responsibility are present she may shrink from the world. Her world narrows, her enthusiasm for life …
Part 5 (Prior post: Men, Intimacy and Patterns) Judgment generates trouble in a marital relationship. You may have a strong need to view yourself as right and your spouse as wrong. You judge his behavior and thoughts as being either acceptable or unacceptable. There may be a little grey area. Of course you do the …
Men and Intimacy – Part 2 (the prior post: Men and Intimacy) A woman often feels a tinge guilt for the distance in the marriage. Am I not enough? What’s wrong with me that he won’t come close? Of course, we all bring with us thoughts of inadequacy into your marital bed and marital dinner …
Introduction: Intimacy in Marriage I recently offered a new report “7 Reasons Men have Difficulty Getting Close and Staying Close” to my readers and asked for their responses. I wanted to determine how the report was helpful; how it enabled them to gain awareness, make shifts and feel better with their spouses. I offered an …
What difficulties do men have in creating and developing intimacy and closeness in marriage? I’m first going to outline seven reasons for men having difficulty in getting and keeping closeness in marriage. These reasons emerge from the general coping patterns I talked about earlier. 1. A man may proclaim: “It’s not me. It’s your fault.” …
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What is it that creates men to have difficulty with closeness? And, how does it make you feel? Please understand that this is not about man bashing. I’m a man and I prefer not to be bashed. And women, I assume also don’t like to be bashed. We have enough bashing in our culture. The …
