In the beginning sessions of coaching I often ask someone: “What would you truly like to say to your spouse? What would you say if s/he was standing before you right now? Uncensored. No holding back. Let it fly!” Often I get the agitated response, “Well, I’ve said everything!” I urge them to tell me …
Here are the results for you who completed the Marriage Crisis Checklist. (If you didn’t get the Checklist, sign up for the info in the right column and you will be added to my mailing list and will have an opportunity to receive the final product. I’m just beginning research on this project.) These are …
If you are the reluctant spouse that is pulling away, wants emotional distance, I want you to feel better: no guilt, less paralysis and less frustration. I want you to understand your dilemma so you might move ahead, wherever that takes you, in ways that honor you, your spouse and your family. Play the video …
Your relationship with your parent(s) trumps your relationship with your spouse. The power and ingrained nature of your feelings, perceptions and coping patterns you experienced or did not experience with your parents carry into your marriage. Whether your parents are alive or dead, whether you have contact with them or have broken contact and whether …
Are you a Team? Warm Magic Moments are given the possibility for life in your relationship of deep emotional investment if you together can manage the things of your life. The capacity to function as a well oiled team, making and following through on problems and decisions related to money, children, extended family, career choices, …
9 Traits that will Guarantee Effective Teamwork in a Marriage Read More »
A couple that resolves conflict quickly and painlessly encourages Magic Moments. Not all marriages suffer from conflict. I’m talking primarily about verbal conflict. Some couples say they never “fight.” And, they don’t. They find a way to cope and manage differences without resorting to verbal assaults. I would guess that 15-25% of marriages find conflict …
Mindsets that Generate Magic Moments in a Marriage: Conflict Resolution Read More »
Self-help experts say you need good communication in marriage. Yes, that is a given. It’s also a very general statement that needs expansion. There are many levels of communication: body language, tone of voice, rate of speech, speech pattern changes, eye movement and yes the words you use. Let’s break down what effective communication is …
Communication in Marriage Incubates Magic Moments Read More »
One in a marriage or relationship of emotional investment is ALWAYS (instead of confronting your spouse) running away or distancing self or putting on the brakes, at some point, with communication, intimacy, closeness and the process of knowing and being known. In 80% of the marriages you can count on this process. It’s usually men …
Shift #4: From Running from your Spouse to Confronting Your Spouse Read More »
I’m presenting 10 mature mindsets that generate an inviting atmosphere for Magic Moments to occur in your Marriage. This article speaks about the second characteristic of a mature mindset: awareness of your spouse or partner. The first characteristic: respect for self. Awareness of your spouse calls attention to the depth of your knowledge about your …
Awareness of Your Spouse Leads to Magic Moments in Your Marriage Read More »
One in a marriage is usually the chaser or pursuer, which is characteristic of a Yellow Marriage (see https://saveamarriageforever.com/ebook.htm for marriage problem advice pertaining to this specific type of marriage). This is an extremely common phenomenon. My experience tells me that 80% of marriages suffer from this dilemma. Much of my coaching with marriages in crisis …
Marriage Problem Advice – Shift #3: From Chasing to Confronting Read More »
