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Marriage Problem Advice – Shift #3: From Chasing to Confronting

One in a marriage is usually the chaser or pursuer, which is characteristic of a Yellow Marriage (see https://saveamarriageforever.com/ebook.htm for marriage problem advice pertaining to this specific type of marriage). This is an extremely common phenomenon. My experience tells me that 80% of marriages suffer from this dilemma. Much of my coaching with marriages in crisis […]

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Shifts You REALLY Want to Make to Create Magic Moments in a Marriage

A huge majority of those I’ve worked with over the years regarding their marriage problems profess first and foremost that they are looking for changes in their spouse. If only s/he would be more communicative, be more emotional, be more caring, listen better, not focus so much on work, not have friends be the center

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Mature Mindsets that Lead to Magic Moments in a Marriage

Reminder: If you missed my blog on Magic Moments, go here now to review: https://saveamarriageforever.com/the-reality-of-magic-moments-in-a-marriage/ Warning: Don’t shame on you. I am usually terribly reluctant to share ideals or a vision of what is possible. The reason: many feel guilty, inadequate or discouraged because they are not there. Rather than use the ideals or vision as

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The Reality of Magic Moments in a Marriage

The Reality of Magic Moments in a Marriage What are you looking for or what do you expect in your marriage? Here’s my educated guess, after having talked to literally thousands over the decades about their primary relationship: You want Magic Moments. Here are some examples of a Magic Moment: You look into each other’s

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Men, Intimacy and Feeling Normal

Part 6 (previous post: Men, Intimacy and Judgment) You want to believe you are “normal.” Often, in the midst of a marital crisis you feel anything but normal. Your world is turned upside down. Your dreams and hopes of a “normal” happy family are dashed. You begin to doubt yourself. Your neediness becomes more desperate.

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Men, Intimacy and Patterns

Part 4 (Prior post: Men, Intimacy and Isolation) Knowing the coping patterns of your spouse (as outlined in “7 Reasons Men have Difficulty Getting Close and Staying Close”) provides relief. Often you as a spouse are too close to the relationship to see the overarching patterns of coping and behavior. You see the tree staring

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Men, Intimacy and Isolation

Men and Intimacy – Part 3 (the prior post: Men, Intimacy and Guilt) The spouse who lives and breathes next to an emotionally distant man may experience a strong dose of isolation. If guilt and a sense of undue responsibility are present she may shrink from the world. Her world narrows, her enthusiasm for life

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Men, Intimacy and Judgment

Part 5  (Prior post: Men, Intimacy and Patterns) Judgment generates trouble in a marital relationship. You may have a strong need to view yourself as right and your spouse as wrong. You judge his behavior and thoughts as being either acceptable or unacceptable. There may be a little grey area. Of course you do the

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Intimacy in Marriage: Men and Intimacy

Introduction: Intimacy in Marriage I recently offered a new report “7 Reasons Men have Difficulty Getting Close and Staying Close” to my readers and asked for their responses. I wanted to determine how the report was helpful; how it enabled them to gain awareness, make shifts and feel better with their spouses. I offered an

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Why Men Have Difficulty with Closeness

What is it that creates men to have difficulty with closeness? And, how does it make you feel? Please understand that this is not about man bashing. I’m a man and I prefer not to be bashed. And women, I assume also don’t like to be bashed. We have enough bashing in our culture. The

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