A prominent message sent to the bride and groom upon getting married is, “You are losing your personal freedom.” Isn’t the phrase “tying the knot” interesting? It speaks of a strangle hold, a constriction and losing the capacity to be free. Pranks speak to this loss of personal freedom. Here’s a prank played from my …
Shift #2: From Losing my Personal Freedom to Enhancing my Personal Freedom Read More »
A huge majority of those I’ve worked with over the years regarding their marriage problems profess first and foremost that they are looking for changes in their spouse. If only s/he would be more communicative, be more emotional, be more caring, listen better, not focus so much on work, not have friends be the center …
Shifts You REALLY Want to Make to Create Magic Moments in a Marriage Read More »
Reminder: If you missed my blog on Magic Moments, go here now to review: https://saveamarriageforever.com/the-reality-of-magic-moments-in-a-marriage/ Warning: Don’t shame on you. I am usually terribly reluctant to share ideals or a vision of what is possible. The reason: many feel guilty, inadequate or discouraged because they are not there. Rather than use the ideals or vision as …
Mature Mindsets that Lead to Magic Moments in a Marriage Read More »
The Reality of Magic Moments in a Marriage What are you looking for or what do you expect in your marriage? Here’s my educated guess, after having talked to literally thousands over the decades about their primary relationship: You want Magic Moments. Here are some examples of a Magic Moment: You look into each other’s …
Part 6 (previous post: Men, Intimacy and Judgment) You want to believe you are “normal.” Often, in the midst of a marital crisis you feel anything but normal. Your world is turned upside down. Your dreams and hopes of a “normal” happy family are dashed. You begin to doubt yourself. Your neediness becomes more desperate. …
Men and Intimacy – Part 3 (the prior post: Men, Intimacy and Guilt) The spouse who lives and breathes next to an emotionally distant man may experience a strong dose of isolation. If guilt and a sense of undue responsibility are present she may shrink from the world. Her world narrows, her enthusiasm for life …
What difficulties do men have in creating and developing intimacy and closeness in marriage? I’m first going to outline seven reasons for men having difficulty in getting and keeping closeness in marriage. These reasons emerge from the general coping patterns I talked about earlier. 1. A man may proclaim: “It’s not me. It’s your fault.” …
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Healing the Marriage: 3 Steps to Closeness What things can you do to help you in healing the marriage? The first step in your journey to closeness is to understand and be aware of your patterns. You have ways of coping with emotional issues and relationships that you took with you from childhood. It was sensible …
Is it really just men who are having trouble with intimacy in marriage? How do women cope with this fear? And how are they different from men? Perhaps you also know this fact: That women have “issues” with closeness and intimacy in marriage just as much as men do. Although women may approach the issue …
What is it that creates men to have difficulty with closeness? And, how does it make you feel? Please understand that this is not about man bashing. I’m a man and I prefer not to be bashed. And women, I assume also don’t like to be bashed. We have enough bashing in our culture. The …
