It’s really quite simple. You just plain forgot how to love. Remember when you held your newborn? You experienced the raw naked power and feeling of love. Your newborn WAS love. Your newborn loved you – unconditionally. You weren’t called upon to perform or be someone you were not. You were loved because you were […]
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Warning: in this article I’m taking a very critical look at conventional self help and professional counseling for troubled relationships. I saw what I perceived to be the demise of the therapeutic community’s capacity to be effective back in the 90’s when I served on the State Board for Marriage and Family Therapy. It was
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Can Your Marriage be Saved? This question is a tough one to face for most facing the demise of their marriage: Can this marriage be saved? Is it too painful or disturbing for you to entertain this question? The thought of your marriage ending is often terrifying: -My dreams and hopes for a good life
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I had a reader and someone I had coached email me the other day with an interesting result to a shift in communication she tried with her husband. Her husband was having an “I don’t want to say no” type of affair. This type of affair often is grounded in a sense of entitlement, a
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“I Love You but am Not ‘In Love’ With You”: What Does That REALLY Mean?! Here are a few possible underlying meanings or distinctions for the “I Love You but am Not In Love with You” outburst. 1. An ongoing or possible affair relationship. Your spouse may have a strong attraction to another person, and
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A study was conducted at Kansas Sate University surveying some 500 men and women asking the question: which would worse: imagining your partner involved in passionate sexual cheating or your partner engaged in emotional cheating with someone else? And, following the lines of gender stereotypes, the study concluded that men would be more disturbed by
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The Unhappy Marriage: The “Falling out of Love” Process A Marriage and Family Therapist outlines the 3 stages In this article I will outline the 3 steps of an unhappy marriage that most of us, actually everyone that I’ve encountered, go through as we “fall in love” and then fall “out of love.” At the
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Here are the results for you who completed the Marriage Crisis Checklist. (If you didn’t get the Checklist, sign up for the info in the right column and you will be added to my mailing list and will have an opportunity to receive the final product. I’m just beginning research on this project.) These are
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So, what exactly is the underlying relationship meaning of “I love you but am not in love with you”? And how do you respond when your partner tells you that? This is part 3 of a seven part blog series on the underlying relationship meaning of the words, “I love you but am not in
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Should you really start thinking about when to divorce when your partner says that he or she has “fallen out of love” with you? This is the second part in my series of blog posts on the commonly used phrase “I love you but am not in love with You,” which will focus on what
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