The marriages that struggle and endure with pain far outnumber those they observe that offer life and health to the couple. Reality indicates to you that just perhaps marriage will be difficult. It is expected, especially if you talk to other married couples, that the marriage will grow “cold.” The passion will fade. The advent …
One spouse always seemingly wants more (intimacy, talking, connection, time together, etc) than the other. There is ALWAYS an imbalance. Usually, but not always, it is the male who backs away or displays hesitancy. Please leave your comment about the video below. What is the intimacy balance like in your relationship?
I’ve observed that we live in an ADD – OCD culture. You may flit from thought to thought, project to project and for the life of you find it difficult to maintain your focus. Our medical community labels this as Attention Deficit Disorder and prescribes medication. Or you may work extremely hard controlling your environment …
When confronted with a marital crisis, your knee jerk reaction is to focus “out there” to stop the crisis. An almost obsessive like focus on your spouse or partner during a marital crisis I find extremely common, at least when the crisis first erupts. Your world is thrown into chaos. Your future suddenly is marked …
In the beginning sessions of coaching I often ask someone: “What would you truly like to say to your spouse? What would you say if s/he was standing before you right now? Uncensored. No holding back. Let it fly!” Often I get the agitated response, “Well, I’ve said everything!” I urge them to tell me …
Here are the results for you who completed the Marriage Crisis Checklist. (If you didn’t get the Checklist, sign up for the info in the right column and you will be added to my mailing list and will have an opportunity to receive the final product. I’m just beginning research on this project.) These are …
If you are the reluctant spouse that is pulling away, wants emotional distance, I want you to feel better: no guilt, less paralysis and less frustration. I want you to understand your dilemma so you might move ahead, wherever that takes you, in ways that honor you, your spouse and your family. Play the video …
“Chemistry” creates Warm Magic Moments What is “Chemistry?” I really don’t know. And, not knowing is what makes “chemistry,” chemistry. Chemistry is an attraction, a powerful attraction. It’s just there. You walk into a room of 100 people and you may be “drawn” to a particular person. There is an attraction that defies reason. The …
Your relationship with your parent(s) trumps your relationship with your spouse. The power and ingrained nature of your feelings, perceptions and coping patterns you experienced or did not experience with your parents carry into your marriage. Whether your parents are alive or dead, whether you have contact with them or have broken contact and whether …
Do you trust your spouse? Trust is a function of predictability. You trust your spouse, when s/he responds and acts predictably. That sounds very simple, doesn’t it? Well, it’s not. Trust is a huge factor in a marriage or relationship and that fact is brought to light when one spouse cheats. Trust is shattered and …
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