I’ve observed that we live in an ADD – OCD culture. You may flit from thought to thought, project to project and for the life of you find it difficult to maintain your focus. Our medical community labels this as Attention Deficit Disorder and prescribes medication. Or you may work extremely hard controlling your environment […]
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What difficulties do men have in creating and developing intimacy and closeness in marriage? I’m first going to outline seven reasons for men having difficulty in getting and keeping closeness in marriage. These reasons emerge from the general coping patterns I talked about earlier. 1. A man may proclaim: “It’s not me. It’s your fault.”
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Healing the Marriage: 3 Steps to Closeness What things can you do to help you in healing the marriage? The first step in your journey to closeness is to understand and be aware of your patterns. You have ways of coping with emotional issues and relationships that you took with you from childhood. It was sensible
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Is it really just men who are having trouble with intimacy in marriage? How do women cope with this fear? And how are they different from men? Perhaps you also know this fact: That women have “issues” with closeness and intimacy in marriage just as much as men do. Although women may approach the issue
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What is it that creates men to have difficulty with closeness? And, how does it make you feel? Please understand that this is not about man bashing. I’m a man and I prefer not to be bashed. And women, I assume also don’t like to be bashed. We have enough bashing in our culture. The
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So, what exactly is the underlying relationship meaning of “I love you but am not in love with you”? And how do you respond when your partner tells you that? This is part 3 of a seven part blog series on the underlying relationship meaning of the words, “I love you but am not in
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Should you really start thinking about when to divorce when your partner says that he or she has “fallen out of love” with you? This is the second part in my series of blog posts on the commonly used phrase “I love you but am not in love with You,” which will focus on what
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So, you ask, how can you possibly help me fix my relationship? How do you do more than swallow hard and go into shock when your spouse says, “I love you but am not in love with you anymore?” I will present distinctions and what your confused spouse might REALLY be saying to you,which is
Is it really about saving or ending your relationship with your partner, or do you just want to find a way to resolve the marriage? To resolve the marriage means finding a life-giving, self-respecting, other-respecting avenue to expose the old patterns, undo the old patterns and create new ones that give life, hope, true love
What are the real reasons you have for saving the marriage? When I ask a spouse why he or she wants to save the marriage, I often hear, “Because I love him or her.” And I sometimes respond, “What is it about him or her that you love?” or, “What do you mean that you
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