The following is a list of qualities that create an emotional connection in a marriage or partnership: 1. I want to enjoy receiving pleasure from my spouse and easily communicate desires. 2. I want to accept and respect a “no” from my partner. 3. I want to communicate my personal needs around sex and have …
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I struggle with lack in my life. I wake in the morning and this fairly mild, what I call gut wrench, strikes my stomach as my mind hashes over what I want… more of… money, success, recognition, love or whatever. I write this not to complain but to share because I think it’s a HUGE …
Dr. Huizenga here… If like most, you are here because you suffer in one of these arenas: Your marriage is in crisis. Infidelity, divorce, or a recent secret that became a painful reality now haunts you and your marriage. Your marriage is dying. Maybe it has been for a long time. The warmth, the tenderness, …
How to Overcome Your Fear of Losing Your Marriage
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Your Marriage Breaking? Shattered? Your marriage is breaking. You don’t want it to break, but it feels like each day a new piece shatters. Do you sometimes feel like the door of love, acceptance and intimacy has been slammed shut in your face? You feel unappreciated, alone, ignored and emotionally light years removed from your …
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I’m giving you the top 10 practical benefits of personal one-on-one coaching. (These are the first 10 that came to my mind as I reflected on my journey as a Marriage and Family Therapist since 1981 logging over 25,000 direct client hours.) Here’s a little personal info. I have two brothers-in-law. One is a medical …
It’s really quite simple. You just plain forgot how to love. Remember when you held your newborn? You experienced the raw naked power and feeling of love. Your newborn WAS love. Your newborn loved you – unconditionally. You weren’t called upon to perform or be someone you were not. You were loved because you were …
Before one can intervene or act powerfully to change or alter a marriage or relationship, it is vital that one internally experiences a feeling of calm and confidence. Of course, that calmness ebbs and flows, sometimes by the moment. The internal calmness is indicative of charging neutral. Here’s an article that will enable you to …
Blog Review: How to Keep Cool During a Marital Crisis Read More »
People don’t often realize it, but emotional infidelity can be just as destructive as affairs that progress into physical infidelity. If you’ve slipped into emotional adultery or are concerned that your partner has, it’s natural to feel adrift and alone. A quick online search reveals, however, that emotional affairs are common. As depressing as that …
Is it Emotional Infidelity? These 15 Blogs Will Help You Discover the Truth Read More »
How much do you tolerate with an abusive spouse? What have you put up with? In this blog I list 17 steps for coping with a spouse that exhibits addictive behaviors. Frequently, addictive behaviors increasingly over time lead to abuse thrown in your direction. 17 Steps for Coping with an Abusive (or Cheating) Spouse 1. …
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Warning: in this article I’m taking a very critical look at conventional self help and professional counseling for troubled relationships. I saw what I perceived to be the demise of the therapeutic community’s capacity to be effective back in the 90’s when I served on the State Board for Marriage and Family Therapy. It was …
