I struggle with lack in my life. I wake in the morning and this fairly mild, what I call gut wrench, strikes my stomach as my mind hashes over what I want… more of… money, success, recognition, love or whatever. I write this not to complain but to share because I think it’s a HUGE …
Dr. Huizenga here… If like most, you are here because you suffer in one of these arenas: Your marriage is in crisis. Infidelity, divorce, or a recent secret that became a painful reality now haunts you and your marriage. Your marriage is dying. Maybe it has been for a long time. The warmth, the tenderness, …
How to Overcome Your Fear of Losing Your Marriage
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I’m giving you the top 10 practical benefits of personal one-on-one coaching. (These are the first 10 that came to my mind as I reflected on my journey as a Marriage and Family Therapist since 1981 logging over 25,000 direct client hours.) Here’s a little personal info. I have two brothers-in-law. One is a medical …
How much do you tolerate with an abusive spouse? What have you put up with? In this blog I list 17 steps for coping with a spouse that exhibits addictive behaviors. Frequently, addictive behaviors increasingly over time lead to abuse thrown in your direction. 17 Steps for Coping with an Abusive (or Cheating) Spouse 1. …
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Warning: in this article I’m taking a very critical look at conventional self help and professional counseling for troubled relationships. I saw what I perceived to be the demise of the therapeutic community’s capacity to be effective back in the 90’s when I served on the State Board for Marriage and Family Therapy. It was …
Can Your Marriage be Saved? This question is a tough one to face for most facing the demise of their marriage: Can this marriage be saved? Is it too painful or disturbing for you to entertain this question? The thought of your marriage ending is often terrifying: -My dreams and hopes for a good life …
In the professional and self help community it’s commonly understood that your thinking creates reality. What you think about becomes your world. The thoughts in your mind color how you see and experience your world. Your thoughts and those images swirling around those thoughts generate your feelings. You focus (or think) on the ugly and …
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Conventional marriage tips and advice often offer ways for you to “fix” your marriage or relationship crisis. It is suggested you look “out there” to a therapist, to a skill, to a seminar or to a book to solve the problem. You also, sometimes obsessively, focus on your partner or spouse attempting to elicit assurance …
I’ve observed that we live in an ADD – OCD culture. You may flit from thought to thought, project to project and for the life of you find it difficult to maintain your focus. Our medical community labels this as Attention Deficit Disorder and prescribes medication. Or you may work extremely hard controlling your environment …
When confronted with a marital crisis, your knee jerk reaction is to focus “out there” to stop the crisis. An almost obsessive like focus on your spouse or partner during a marital crisis I find extremely common, at least when the crisis first erupts. Your world is thrown into chaos. Your future suddenly is marked …
