The Marriage Building Online Course is built upon 3 main components.

First, You will get results – FAST. You also will experience a high degree of relief as the tension level is lowered making it much easier to give and receive love.

Second, you will reprogram. You were subtly and sometimes not so subtly taught beliefs about marriage and love that generate pain, fear and failure.

Third you will reconnect (if your partner is emotionally available.) You will start over. There is no going back. You will learn and embrace new ways to connect with one another.

The Tools, articles, checklists and videos in these Modules all include elements of the three above ingredients.

These Modules are created for you to first get results, find relief and know you have the ability to quickly and powerfully turn your marriage around.

You will Identify Fear based laws and other beliefs (you were taught) about love and marriage that generate failure.

You will also use many Tools and resources to shift to embracing and implementing the 3 EASY LOVE Laws.

One-on-One Personal Coaching is available to keep focused, on track and accelerate your change process.

Wishing you the best,

Dr. Bob Huizenga

Welcome!

You get the best of the best.

I’ve dedicated my life to understanding what make us as individuals, couples and family systems tick. And, I’ve used that understanding to help others.

I began my private practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in 1981 and have logged over 25,000 client hours, hundreds of hours of supervision and attended dozens of professional workshops and seminars. My wall is lined with books, most with weird sounding titles.

I refused reimbursement by insurance companies for services rendered. People paid “out of pocket,” which meant that if I didn’t help people, I didn’t eat. This is THE litmus test for a successful therapist.

You benefit now because I spent the past five years reflecting and dissecting my professional years, discerning what I said and what I did that truly helped others.

I’m terribly creative with a streak of practicality which leads me to offer practical tools that touch the core elements and generate a life, marriage, family and relationships that offer the most out of life for you and everyone around you.

The best of what I offer is found in the Members Area.

And, I continue to develop new tools and understandings that enable you to give and receive love more powerfully as well as eradicate old beliefs and build new brain cells about what relationships truly should be.

What follow is a personal “Mission Statement” that I put together a few years ago. For the most part is fits, although if I really worked at it, I would change/add a few things.

Here’s another window into me:

I live each moment with an appreciation for that moment. Within that moment I am given the opportunity to discover more fully my strengths, how they are called forth and am reminded that I am a unique person wanting to serve and participate. I live with no regrets for the past or worry about my future.

I accept responsibility for my actions and thoughts. I am responsible for eliciting from my friends, colleagues, family, community, clients and the universe what I need, want or desire. Within that responsibility I find tremendous freedom and joy.

I am a person of integrity, who does the right thing, yet is not bound compulsively by rules. I continually upgrade my personal foundation and intentionally set increasingly high standards for myself. I surround myself with people who accept me and consciously and willingly meet my needs. I give a high priority to caring for myself physically, emotionally, socially and spiritually.

I create reserves of money, energy, time, opportunities and people, that enable and call forth extreme generosity and limitless creativity.

I view my existence as a lifelong process of development and unfolding, tremendously exhilarating and never completed. I welcome the edge of growth and exploration.

My vision for coaching and working with others begins with a desire to add significant value to those I choose to work with and to offer world class service. My ultimate goals are to work with others to expand more fully their world, help them appreciate and utilize strengths and to ultimately watch them develop a life in which they attract without struggle their most important successes.

I develop lifelong relationships, based on mutual trust and confidence, from which a community of like-minded successful people emerges.

Again, welcome.

I honor and value your presence.

And, I look forward to working with you.

Dr. Bob Huizenga

It’s ok if your spouse is reluctant to participate, It’s ok if your spouse refuses to participate. These modules will be like gold for you even if you are taking a break from a “serious” relationship – if you’re not in a relationship of mutual emotional investment – at this point.

Key Points:

1 One in a relationship of mutual emotional investment always seemingly wants love, intimacy, closeness, attention, etc. more than the other. Snippets of this balance may be apparent in the first stages of a relationship but achieve prominence as the relationship ages.

My experience tells me that 90% of marriages have one that pursues (obviously trying to get needs for attention, intimacy, etc. met) while the other distances..

And, typically, if there is a baseline of commitment, at particular points marked by crisis or a relational shift, roles are reversed. The distancer becomes the pursuer and the pursuer the distancer.

2 Your spouse’s distancing points to tension and an underlying fear and/or hostility. You feel it!

As you move toward diminishing the tension and negativity (tools in the modules enable that) your spouse cannot not change or respond.

3 You have been programmed (if the marriage is in crisis) to seek marital counseling, attend marriage workshops and seminars, spend intentional time together, book a romantic weekend, communicate more and better, take each other less for granted and so on.

These strategies may seem to work if you can grab your spouse by the ear and make them participate.

Although you both may feel a sense of relief (from the tension, fear and hostility) the relief, if you are fortunate, lasts for a few hours or days at best.

The “Force it/Fix it” model is not effective.

Once you break free from the subtle but powerful programming of your culture, cooperation and mutual commitment to understanding, healing and acceptance flow freely.

4 Here’s a strong suggestion: go it alone!

Even if your spouse commits to participate, spend the next few days reviewing the modules, understanding, learning and completing the exercises and checklists by yourself.

You need time to reflect and separate from the tension that swirls around the marriage and keeps you recycling the same old relational garbage.

Quick Marriage Turn Around Module which gives access to:

Marriage Building Intensive Modules which give access to:

The Coaching Modules which give access to everything:

Jumpstart Coaching – 4 half hour phone or skype sessions with Dr. Huizenga

Advanced Coaching – 4 half hour phone or skype sessions with Dr. Huizenga and email/contact privileges between sessions

LEVEL 1
Quick Marriage
Turn Around

LEVEL 2
Marriage Building
Intensive Module

LEVEL 3
Personal Coaching with
Dr. Huizenga

• Quick Marriage Turn Around

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You already have access to this level

• Marriage Building Intensive Module

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• Quick Marriage Turn Around

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$127

• 4 Half Hour Coaching Sessions with Dr. Huizenga

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• Marriage Building Intensive Module

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• Quick Marriage Turn Around

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$737